YOur reference to none of your clients knowing about your blog: in this interconnected world, that won't last.

Just remember to clear the laptop's internet cache though. He might stumble across this site and think, when was I here and then as David T suggest above, anonymity will vanish :-)

Why is it that married folk end up like that?

Living like two strangers living together. Wife is gone to China and husband gets playgirl in cabin.

The older I get, the cooler that sounds but when I was younger I thought it would be wedded bliss to be married...

I also supported Jimmy Carter when I was younger and I saw the error there as I aged. Is being married an error?

Brad touches on a point I was going to make - I was concerned for you that Eric would find your blog. (Isn't it strange how, having read your stuff for a day or two, I feel concerned about you? It's not like you need looking after. It must be something to do with the personal nature of anonymity.) Anyway, my point was that clearing the cache is no answer either because unless Eric is a complete imbecile an empty cache would display your guilt, if not your crime.

My reference to being "discovered" had nothing to do with the cache. I just think it's basically naive to think you can be an escort, discuss some of your exploits on a web site that looks like it has pretty robust readership, and think that one or more of those clients is not going to find the site and put two and two together.

And as far as the Married Folk ending up like that: I just don't get the sense that Eric and wife are all that old. No kids, apparently, unless she jets off to Asia, Eric jets off with his concubine, and some $17,500 illegal alien is home with the little 'uns. So they are either young and haven't started a family yet, or they are DINKs, and he's a philanderer on top of that. If they're the first type, marital bliss must have hit the skids pretty quickly.

Ohhh, naked snowboarding. Oh, you mean snowboarding with clothes on. Darn, and I was going to ask for pictures.

Alexa, I don't quite get why you help a married man cheating on his wife given the family history you told us about in an earlier column. What changed?

Park City is an awesome park. My sister used to live around there. last time I went though I wrecked my knee on my first run. That sucked, and the white russians were too weak to ease the pain!

Why does she help a married man (and not just any married man -- one of her "favorites!) As Cyndie Lauper sang: money changes everything.

hi, i'm a long time reader of your blog. but i cannot help but be a little disturbed by the idea that you are helping a married man cheat on his wife. i was just curious as to your reasoning for that being "okay."

To those asking about "helping" the married man cheat on his wife, omg are you guys kidding? What do you think an escort's job is? Do you think they only see, single, unattached men? How can you possibly be that naive?

Not trying to be mean, but what kind of fantasy are you seeing here?

JDB: It's not that the readers don't understand what an escort does. (Obviously, if they've gotten this far into the blog....). Some readers are questioning the apparent inconsistency in a life history that says a) my father is a no good shit for running off with his secretary b) for a career choice, I've put a red light over my bed, and the marital status of my customers does not bother me. Nobody lives a life with no contradictions, but this one does appear to be a bit over the top.

ALEXA, DON'T PAY ANY ATTENTION TO ALL THE NEGATIVE COMMENTS ABOUT YOUR CLIENT BEING MARRIED. WHO CARES? HIS MONEY IS JUST AS GREEN AS A SINGLE GUY'S. RELAX, ENJOY THE SNOW. I WILL LOOK FORWARD TO HEARING THE STORIES ABOUT YOUR TRIP.

Have a good time, Alexa. =)

This is a basic Outcall and Travel prices for an above average escort

This is for escort service ONLY! (I am sure you will claim yours are much higher - Not understanding this is service only)

Outcall*

$300 USD (2 hour minimum)
$1250 USD 12 hours
$2250 USD Full 24 hours

Travel*

$1100 USD Half-Day/12 hours
$1600 USD Full 24 hours

But these prices don’t include any sex – you know that goes under the chemistry act!

Chemistry act is what happens between two adults - The Chemistry between client and escort equals costly Chemi$try - Well above what is listed above.

Come-on now! Realistically the things you been saying of late, make little sense “Sex with a Dogs for 5 digits and now this. Unless you give sex away - this is a very expensive trip for Eric - Plus why are you on his laptop, secretly?? why wouldn’t you bring your own Laptop, You did in Vegas! - This is something most do in any business that has websites – you do have a Website?? Most agencies and independent escorts do.

I understand turning off the phone, and making his time his time, but both parties understand that business is business and when he is sleeping it really wouldn’t matter if you fired up your laptop, there is a respect among business men that is very understanding to this.

I’m starting to believe you are a clueless fat dude - haven’t your clients posted in the past to you on this site? I believe they have! I could be wrong but someone else has said that too and they read your site religiously, and you just said none of your clients know about this site.

If this site is all just a big deceit, then.. shame on you! because some people do want to believe it and your readers are being forced to believe a false idea of you, and the escort profession.

80% of the Personal diaries out there are full of deceit; the other 20% never get read.

And to all the readers wondering why an escort would screw a married man??? That’s got to be the dumbest thing I have ever heard! Without a married man, life of an escort would be in poverty most of the time!

I am not here to knock you Alexa - But you turn a perfect chance to educate some very curious readers about the life of an escort/prostitute (because being an escort doesn’t make you a prostitute, until the sex for money exchanges hands! Or should I say accounts, this is 2005! Nobody sees cash anymore when their uptown!)

Sorry for the Rant. It is not that I don't like you - I don't even know you - you have a great writing syle but your wasting it and I'm 99% sure your not Escort, but that really doesn't matter.

Have fun! and take pictures ;)

Is Alexa Eric's secretary? Noooo. So zip it. How many husbands running off with their escorts have you heard of? What I mean is, Eric is not gonna leave his wife due to his relationship with Alexa. She simply fills a void in his life, whether it be emotional or simply physical. His relationship with his wife is probably better BECAUSE of Alexa.

The question is not about Eric or "why" he's doing what he's doing. We all know the answer to that one, and don't particularly care why Eric has chosen to do what he has done. (Hey, if I had Alexa's number, I'd probably grab the chance too.) The observations are more why a woman so obviously hurt by her father's infidelities would take on a career that relies on other people's infidelity for a good portion of its revenue. You'd think there might be more of a visceral reaction. So, Katiebird (great blog by the way, just saw it for the first time),the question is not why an escort would screw a married man, but why given her history she chose to be an escort, knowing she would HAVE to screw married men. And the answer, as she has noted, is that it keeps her in Prada, Jimmie Choos, etc. It doesn't say much for her emotional depth.

I have read this blog for a long time, and I think that I actually need to say something about Alexa seeing married men.

She talked about her problems with her father because he RAN OFF with his secretary. I don't personally see her running off with any of her clients. They are married and they are seeing her because there is no emotional attachment. They do not intend to leave their wives, they just want to experience the sex life of a single man.

Alexa sells to her lonely single clients the illusion of being loved. To her married clients, she sells the illusion of having that fresh relationship when you are single and its about fun and sex. Whatever they get from it, IT IS ILLUSION and both parties know that.

I personally see no hypocrisy in this at all.

I am a very happy, well-adjusted, well rested, 3-year-married, 35yo, high-profile figure in my home community -- just facts -- and I have been "hobbying" with escorts and role-playing with fetish-oriented mistresses for about 10 years.

I have sessioned with alot of providers across a number of price ranges (although, alas, I never had the cash n(or lately the freedom) to do an overnight or to get out of town with my companion). But if the man with Alexa in Park City has the time and the dough-re-mi, good for him!

The reason these activities work -- and are not meanigfully analagous to falling in love with a coworker and a subordinate, at that -- is that the "exchange" (of time, as contracted; and a sharing of intimacies and a release, as may be agreed upon) is 100% commercial. There is no misunderstanding if the "sex worker" is clear with her client, no one gets their signals crossed, let alone falls in love!

In many ways, it is no different than hiring out for a therapeutic massage or getting out of town with a good friend with whom you share company in a most meaningful way.

And as to whether Alexa is "real" or not, who gives a rat's ass? I have enjoyed numerous releases as powerful as any I have had with a working girl in the flesh... which only proves the point that the brain is the most errogenous of body parts.

I dare say that many of the men who question the ethics or propriety or consistency(!) of those who engage on either side of this wholly comercial transaction (here between Alexa and Eric) fail to appreciate that where we draw boundaries in ourm lives, while not random, is ultimately arbitrary... and no one should judge the value-making behind where another's lay. (no pun intended)

I dont see the big deal about you dealing with a married man. Fact is he would cheat on his wife with or without your help. Who is to say that she isnt doing her thing on the side too?

Don't get me wrong, I was not getting on Alex for helping her client cheat on his wife.

THAT IS NOT THE ROOT CAUSE OF MY QUESTION!!

What my question is:

People get married and never think, "After we swap vows, I am going to find myself a concubine!"

I am in a relationship where we drag sometimes and I would love to get a girlfriend! I just can't afford one...

But I would like to know why men and women like us end up in these circumstances?

I was the one who asked the original question. Since Alexa didn't have the time to answer yet and there are some misunderstandings, let me make something clear. I'm not making a moral statement and I'm not judging. I'm certainly not writing a negative comment as all uppercase John implies. It's pretty much like David T. put it, the question is about the apparent inconsistency. And yes, Alexa is obviously not running away with her client, but simply finding out about a spouse's affair can cause just as much pain.

I want to make clear to Alexa and everyone else that I was not meaning to judge Alexa and her actions. It is her business and her client's business. Not mine or anyone elses. I was simply curious as to why she allows herself to "work" with married clients. If it was simply the money or something else. And I too agree with Anonymous and David T. when I ask about the inconsistency that it seems to imply. I am by no means attacking Alexa - just curious.

Let's hope our favorite escort is OK:

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/6827473/

And here I was just stopping by to catch up and see how things are going. Seems quite a little storm is brewing here...Glad you are out of town and enjoying yourself...Hope you had a fabulous time. I'm planning on enjoying some snow myself soon...

hi, im surprize someone still reads my journal, i started agin, thank you for reading, i usualy get nothing im a sad sad \kid i dont know what to do other then get fucked up like now. im going to read somemore of your posts.

happy late new year my goddess. keep up your excellent and amazing writing and advocacy.

xxooooo

Yeah, I hope Alexa is okay!

I have been worried about he since hearing of the Park City disaster!

Alex, if you are out there, some of us bloggers are worried about you, please write.

Alexa, Hope you are alright.