I'm a 20 yr old male but I've actually had a similar problem thats gone on for three or four years now. Its odd for a teenager to have little or no sex drive, pretty abnormal if you think about it. I just always figured it was just me. It wasn't that I wasn't sexual, just not as randy as a goat like most teenagers.

Anyways, I finally talked to my doctor about it and they ran some tests and such and I found out two things: 1.) I was suffering from a pretty deep depression (never wanted to admit that) and 2.) I had a chemical imbalance that was further killing my libido.

So, you might actually want to talk to your doctor. Its possible there's something else going on beyond just an emotional lack.

Some thoughts on getting that feeling.

I often find that a good starting point to feeling 'sensual' is to have an outfit or a set of clothes that makes you feel right. Something you know that you look good in, take some time over getting ready and the like (ie tarting yourself up). Overthinking the situation isn't good because it leaves me tense and too much pressure on the situation so nervous when I head out. A few drinks can help to ease the situation and the like, but not essential. Also have a friend with you with a similar agenda can help as working off a friend can be very helpful when out and gives you someone to talk to about the guys/whatever.

Failing that cross-dressing has got me some of the best sex ever for some reason.

My wife had similar issues. When we first got together.... a long time ago now, there wasn't a safe room in the house, we were going at it like rabbits all of the time. However, after a few years her appitite for sex decreased a lot. At the time I was working like a slave so neither of us really noticed it until thing had normalized a few years after that. Of course then it turned into a case of she never wanted to have sex and I did. Talk about testing a relationship. Anyway, after some time she also talked to her doctor and found out she had a chemical imbalance that was killing her sex drive and leaving her even tempered (read mad as hell all of the time). So, long story short, I agree with one of the above posters, talk to your doctor you'd be surprised how the mind gets in the way of a great sex life.
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Good advice, except for the moving part. She may have constraints about where she can go due to custody issues. Now she may be able to move to a larger town close by.

The underlying issue may only be exhaustion. It takes a lot out of you to raise a child. Or it could be a health problem. Get a physical check-up and talk with a doctor first. It could just be she is on the wrong birth control pills.

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I would increase your level of exercise, that's the frist way to easily up your sex drive. I would see what other birth control pills are out there, they are hormonal and always affect your sex drive in some way. There some good herbal supplements that actually work. I'm thinking of taking one myself. Go get yourself a professional thai/swedish massage, they are a great way to relax and get comfortable with intimacy without the anxiety of dating.

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I second the comment about checking out alternative birth control. My wife had the disappearing-sex-drive problem, although I think it was something in the wedding cake.

Once we decided it was time to think about kids, she stopped the birth control and lo! Her pounce came back, better than ever!

I've been a lot happier since then...

I ditto krankiboy's ccmment about exercise. I started going to a gym and there was this one machine in particular - I had to bend over it, so my ass was pointed up towards the sky. The machine worked my ass and the backs of my thighs, but I swear there must be a nerve leading right to my clit. I love that machine! And my drive has gone way up since using it.

Wait a second. How do you get a letter from a reader when you don't make your e-mail address public? Something is rotten in Denmark, it seems to me ...

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xoxo,
alexa

I understand what your going through my wife had a similiar time in her life...We were married about 10 years, 2 kids, and things started slowly down dramatically

I read an article about women feeling less sexually attractive...

I bought her a very sexy bra, panty, garter belt, and hose...
they say if you feel sexy underneath you clothing it will show through

Working in a bank she couldn't flaunt to much

But I also bought her a mini, with not a totally see through but sheer top, went to a club, separated, and she sure did get alot of looks, stares and conversation, and a couple of real sexy dances...

She even got invited to go back to a guys room
After that night...a lot of her attitude changed...

Try it you might find it works for you

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!